It's a Game called Life
You can watch it all happen
Or you can be a player
If you think there are things that hold you back
Take a good look at them
Ask yourself if what they represent is actually true
Ask if the outcome you envision is really the only one
Ask if there’s a part of yourself that’s scared
Then ask why?
You may find out that the fear is exaggerated
And all you have to do is have courage to take the first step.
If your children have mastered most of what you’ve tried to teach them—they’re in their mid-teens, college, or adult life—you have earned the right to step away from the full-time “Mom” expression of who you are, to reclaim your “Woman” expression. Now is the time to return to the power of the deep feminine that filled you with joy and possibility for your life.
When you were free and independent—before marriage, children, an 8 to 5 job, a mortgage, and whirlwind activities to keep up—you had dreams of what your life would be like. Being pulled in different directions at once, you put your dreams aside; you became a part of the daily life around you, and put your energy into meeting the demands from outside yourself.
Wouldn’t it be nice to, once again, feel your own deep feminine energy welling up inside you seeking full expression in your life?
I am adding a new facet to my practice, one that brings deep appreciation and enjoyment to our lives. I invite your participation, and your collaboration as this takes form.
We will draw from ancient cultures that were thriving before the Romans overran their civilizations. Many were either matriarchal or equal societies. Much of their daily practice was Earth- and nature-centered—observances of Moon phases, seasons, the cycle of life, and life-force in all things—weaving in ritual, giving every activity meaning and sacredness. Appreciation was given to the stillness of night, the freshness of morning, the sound of birdsong, the opening of a flower bud, and noticing as tiny orbs of life grew into fruits and vegetables that would nourish them.
I chose the word Fabulize to express the full, rich potential available to us, as Womankind, in how we energize the world, bringing back an awareness that gave depth to the lives of our foremothers. We can Fabulize every aspect of our daily lives while giving influence beyond our locality. As embodiments of the Divine Feminine, we bring sacredness, honoring, compassionate nurturing, cooperation, peacefulness, and natural beauty to nourish all life on this planet. We have this opportunity to remake the attitudes of war and control into peaceful cooperation and respect.
The egoic energy that propels countries into war for domination and exploitation of people and resources, that pushes companies and individuals into fierce competition and take-over schemes, is being replaced by a higher consciousness. That consciousness is greatly aligned with the Divine Feminine aspect of creation. By reclaiming our feminine energy and expressing it in our lives as we interact with family, friends, coworkers, and the community at large, we seed the planet with it. What we nurture in ourselves, now, can ensure a better future.
If God created a universe in an instant, she enjoyed it so much she did it again and again and again. Who would be there to stop her? Child-like, she learned to do something new and practiced it over and over. Maybe she put a little spin on it the next time, and the next.
There might be beings who can change material and immaterial at a thought. As humans, we don’t understand, but they do. They can change anything to suit themselves. For them, there may not be one reality. They may not know what reality means. They have the ability to change and that is their constant. They know no other. Change is our constant, too, but we resist it mightily. Unlike them, we would make it stop completely, because we say we like things just the way they are. But the way they are is constantly changing.
We don’t know what true reality is. What we know is a consensus idea. Humanity—educated and not—have the idea that here is real. Earth is real. If a person grows up on a vast plain, does s/he believe there is a mountain, or an ocean even more vast than the plain? What is true? The person on the plain knows the sky, the sun orb skating across from one side to the other. S/he knows clouds and rain. S/he knows the night sky with blackness and glowing points of light that seem to twinkle. S/he doesn’t know why. It just is. And for her/him, it always has been and probably, if s/he's thought about future time, always will be.
Humanity has an insatiable need to know—curiosity. We see stars and want to see them close up. We invent optics so we can get a closer view. We invent rockets to take pictures far off into the sky. We ask why? How? When? Scientists don’t like to ask Who? Who is not part of the equation. They’ve figured it out, starting from a dot that exploded. They look far, far away and say it is long, long ago to the beginning of time. But where was the dot? How did it get there? Who or what made it? And why did it explode?
We humans invent things, outside ourselves; we fashion them so they make things happen. What if we don’t need made things--perhaps we're like the beings making and unmaking, never leaving any clutter. Just there, and not there. Speak to the molecules and atoms that are you and surround you. They are intelligent. They listen. They make. They bring. They also unmake, and take away. Because we believe that made things must stay made, we have clutter. We have waste. We take from the Earth Mother and don’t know, really, how to put back. It’s all material to us because, collectively, we believe it.
What if we didn’t?
How many times have you worried about something but you didn’t want others to know you were concerned? Well, maybe there’s not a definitive number that can be applied here, but I’m sure I’m not alone in this.
What is worry?
Often, worry comes from being afraid of something happening that would be bad, either for ourselves, or for someone we care about. One thing to ask yourself is, Do I have control over this? If the answer is “yes,” then take control and do something about it. If the answer is “no,” then you can find out who does, and appeal to them to do the right thing.
But what if you don’t know who has the control, or there is no way to reach them, or it isn’t a personal control issue at all? Then what?
What if disaster strikes?
Here in our area we have had fires, flooding, and an impending dam failure. No one is really able to control this type of thing. What do you do?
My advice, in any case, is that you take immediate action, without showing fear. Fear can be contagious and it escalates from worry to panic, which is never good. So begin with yourself. Control what you can, and get yourself and loved-ones away from the danger as soon as possible. That’s just common sense, and our fight-or-flight mechanism helps us to respond to it.
What about everyday stress?
Day-to-day stress is worry. It is a form of worry that stays just below triggering fight-or-flight, and it can affect many parts of your life and health. Unrelieved stress can severely impact your well-being. Our modern Western lifestyle can be very stressful. We commute to work along with several thousands of other people who are all trying to drive on the same highway at the same time. We work in buildings that have unhealthy air-delivery systems; we sit most of the time and rarely get outside to exercise and feel the sun on our skin; we stare at flickering computer screens and sit under flickering fluorescent lights; our families have time and attention needs that are strained by the commute or other obligations; or the paycheck doesn’t keep pace with the rising costs of daily life.
But what can I do?
Hypnotherapy can help. When you feel weighed down by the stresses of life, hypnotherapy can help you identify the root causes and address them. Unlike psychotherapy, we don’t label you with some neurosis. Instead, you discover your own core truths by getting in touch with your body wisdom. Through deep relaxation, you get below the layer of acculturation and the inner critic. Once you’re there, you can learn what’s most important to you, and your inner knowing can help to guide you to a more comfortable experience in life. It is a client-driven process that is a partnership of involvement between the client and the hypnotherapist. I like to think of it as a way for you to fully enjoy life, again; a way for you to Be Happy! It’s not a command, it’s an invitation.
Most of us think of working in a job that pays well, isn’t too difficult, has nice benefits, and you can live with it until retirement. But is it you?
I’m Best When I’m Me
I am a strong proponent of not just fitting into your livelihood, but fitting your livelihood to yourself.
Maybe I’m just a misfit who hasn’t found a work environment working for others that has lasted. So I’m working for myself, with the intention of doing what inspires me and is inspiring and guiding to my clients. That makes me happy. And the more I fit my purposeful work to me, not just what I’ve been trained to do for people, the more it feeds me. I get energized helping people. I look forward to planning the right approach to best help the person I will be meeting in my next appointment. It’s a joy to know that my contribution of my true self is of benefit to someone else.
Finding your best you might be working for someone else, or it might be taking what you love to do to the next level and creating a business around it.
Waiting to Be Who You Are
We all have talents—a way with certain things or people—and often we keep them as a sideline, or hobby until we have time to do them full-time, which is usually after retirement.
I know it can be scary to be fully dependent on yourself and to have to attract customers to hire you for your skill or come in to your business location. It can take time, and of course, it takes money.
Retirement gives you a reliable income from a pension, savings, investments, etc. that you built up during your work life. For some, that is ideal. They are still young enough to spend their time on the things they love to do and, if they have a chance to earn a little money at it, all the better.
Connection is Life
I believe that personal connection and purposeful service is why we were placed on Earth. Each of us contributes something to the lives of those around us.
When we share our hobbies, our interests, what deeply touches us; when we help someone to finish a project, or show them how to do something more effectively, we gain in the process, and they do, too.
Employment brings us into contact with others. If we remained solitary, we would never experience others’ true selves. When we touch others’ lives, we allow them to touch ours. Person-to-person, true self-to-true self.
Choose Never to Retire
I think, if you are true to yourself in the employment you choose, why would you want to retire? Perfect employment is truly you. Why would you want to retire from yourself? Be who you truly are. Live your truth, every day, in whatever you choose to do in this world. Whether you choose Me, Incorporated, or Me, Employee, be fully and truly you, and you can’t help but be satisfied at day’s end. Be You.
By Kim Victoria & Lynn Tosello
“I Want,” “I Need,” “I Desire,” “I Wish”
What words do you commonly use to describe your hopes, aspirations and dreams?
How do your words affect your emotions?
How might you be more accurate and transformative in stating what you feel would be a life improvement?
Notice how carefully we crafted those questions? Words can be powerful or unimportant depending on how much emotional thrust you feel when you think or say them.
Every thought you have is a creative thought!
Want is one of the trickiest words in the English language because it carries both a positive and negative message at the same time.
wish, desire, hope, aspire, like
should, ought, need, must, demand
lack, be without, be missing, don’t have, deficiency, shortage, scarcity, deficit, poverty
How do you feel as you read those different meanings? Interesting isn’t it.
When you use the word want you probably feel a mixed message - you want something because you don’t have it, so you keep on wanting it and you keep on not having it. You say, ”But I really want it,” without realizing you are emotionally feeling lack rather than positive anticipation. It is your feeling of lack that produces more lack.
When you truly desire manifestation of your goals, avoid the word need at all times. Need is about desperation, hardship, deprivation, poverty, distress, or demands.
We do have basic human needs, but using the word need carries the emotional message that you don’t have something and, therefore, you will never get it. Want and need both carry the powerful emotion of not-having.
How do you manifest what you don't have when you know you want and/or need it?
Everything that exists started out as a thought propelled by an intention or a feeling. The feelings you have about your thoughts help them to come true, and the words you use help to create your feelings; they go hand-in-hand. Law of Attraction operates through your feelings, so make sure your thoughts create good ones.
Be careful with your words. Pay attention to what you think and say about the things you’d like to have exist in your life. Do your best to stop using the words want or need. Write about the things you desire in ways that help you feel really good about them, then read what you’ve written as practice to reprogram your thinking process.
Here are a few useful words to get you started:
desire, wish, eager, enthusiastic, passionate, aspire to, wholehearted, great, devoted, excellent, earnest, get-up-and-go, interested, prefer, fancy, willing, committed, keen, motivated, dedicated, like, love
Use them any way that feels good to you, and notice where you might normally have said the words want or need. The examples, below, can help you get the "hang" of it, but we encourage you to write your own statements that are exactly right for you.
I am enthusiastic about receiving a new car.
I am excited to get a job that is perfect for me.
I prefer to have Chinese food for dinner tonight.
A larger paycheck feels really good.
It is nice to be able to buy a better house.
I am creating a better relationship with my kids.
I fancy a new pair of jeans.
I’m willing to go the extra mile to make that happen.
It’s fun to think about the future this way.
I love receiving __________.
How did that exercise feel?
Notice how you feel when you change your words from want and need to these differently focused statements. It takes practice to shift your thinking in this way, and well worth it. The more attention you give to changing the emotional energy of your words, the faster you will see results in the manifestation. Your thoughts will have more power of creation when you feel positive about those thoughts. Trust the process and open yourself to receive your desires.
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